Preparation & Fundamentals

Whether this is your first time or your fiftieth, preparation matters. Providers notice and appreciate clients who show up ready. It sets the tone for the entire experience.

Hygiene — Non-Negotiable

This is the number one complaint providers have about clients. Poor hygiene is disrespectful, unpleasant, and can get you turned away at the door.

Before Every Session

• Shower thoroughly — not hours ago, ideally right before. If you've been traveling or sweating, shower again. Many incall locations and all brothels/clubs offer showers — use them.
• Brush your teeth and use mouthwash. Bad breath is an instant mood killer.
• Clean under your fingernails. Trim them short. Long or dirty nails can cause injuries during intimate contact.
• Wear clean clothes. Sounds obvious, but after a day of travel, your clothes may not be as fresh as you think.
• Use deodorant, but go easy on cologne/aftershave. Strong fragrances can be overwhelming in close quarters, and some providers are sensitive to them.
• Genital hygiene: Wash thoroughly with soap and water. Pull back the foreskin if uncircumcised. This is the bare minimum of respect.

Budgeting

Know what things cost before you go, and bring the right amount of money.

What to Budget For

• The session itself: Research typical rates for your destination (see Chapter 3 for rough ranges). Budget for the services you want, not the minimum.
• Entry fees: Clubs and brothels often charge a door fee separate from session costs.
• Tips: Not universally expected but appreciated in many cultures. 10-20% is standard where tipping is customary (U.S., Latin America). In Germany or the Netherlands, tipping is less expected but a rounding-up gesture is appreciated.
• Transportation: Taxis, Uber, or rental car to and from the venue.
• Condoms: Bring your own. Don't rely solely on the provider having your preferred brand/size.
• Incidentals: Drinks, snacks (especially in clubs), parking.

Cash Is King

Almost universally, pay in cash. Reasons:

• Most providers prefer or require cash
• No digital paper trail
• No chargebacks or payment disputes
• No risk of card being declined in an awkward moment

Bring the exact amount or close to it in the local currency. Having to break a large bill adds unnecessary friction. Don't flash large amounts of cash.

Mindset

Your mental state matters as much as your physical preparation.

Check Your Expectations

• This is a service, not a relationship. The provider is doing their job. They may be warm and personable — many are excellent at creating a comfortable experience — but don't confuse professional friendliness with romantic interest.
• Don't expect a porn experience. Porn is fiction. Real encounters are different — and honestly, usually better when you drop the script and just be present.
• Performance anxiety is normal. Especially for first-timers. Providers are used to it. Don't stress about it. A good provider will help you relax.
• If you're intoxicated, reconsider. A beer or two for nerves is one thing. Being drunk or high impairs judgment, can cause sexual dysfunction, and makes you a worse client. Some providers will refuse visibly intoxicated clients.

Emotional Readiness

Be honest with yourself about why you're doing this. If you're using it to cope with loneliness, depression, or relationship problems, it may provide temporary relief but won't address the root cause. There's nothing wrong with seeking companionship, but know what you're getting and what you're not.

What to Bring

• Cash — the right amount in the local currency
• Condoms — bring several in your preferred size, reputable brand (Durex, Trojan, Crown, Skyn)
• Phone — for communication and navigation, but be prepared to put it away during the session
• ID — some venues require it for entry (especially age verification). A photocopy or secondary ID is better than your primary passport if privacy is a concern.
• Toiletry kit — toothbrush, mouthwash, deodorant, wet wipes

What NOT to Bring

• Excessive cash or valuables — bring what you need, leave the rest in a hotel safe
• Weapons — never, under any circumstances
• Drugs — aside from the legal risks, combining drugs with a session is dangerous and disrespectful
• Expectations of recording — never record or photograph without explicit consent (and even then, think twice)

Communication Prep

If contacting an independent provider, prepare what you'll say. Good first-contact messages are:

• Brief and polite — introduce yourself (first name or alias), state when and how long you'd like to book, and confirm you've read their website/ad
• Respectful of their process — if they have a booking form, use it. If they prefer text over calls, text.
• Not explicit — don't lead with graphic requests. Discuss specifics in person or after trust is established.

More on this in Chapter 6 (Booking & Negotiation).

Physical Preparation

Your physical condition affects your experience more than most people realize.

• Cardiovascular fitness: Sexual activity is physical exercise. If you get winded walking up stairs, you'll struggle during a session. Regular cardio (30 minutes, 3-4 times per week) directly improves stamina and performance. See our Fitness & Stamina Guide for details.
• Pre-session diet: Eat a light meal 2-3 hours before. Avoid heavy/fatty foods (blood goes to digestion), gas-producing foods (beans, broccoli, carbonated drinks), excessive garlic or onion (breath), and excessive alcohol (impairs function and judgment).
• Hydration: Drink water throughout the day. Dehydration affects energy, blood flow, and overall performance.
• Jet lag: If you've just arrived internationally, don't book a session for your first night. Give yourself at least one good night's sleep to adjust. Jet-lagged sessions are rarely good sessions.

What to Wear

Your clothing communicates something before you say a word. See our Personal Presentation Guide for comprehensive advice.

• FKK clubs/saunas: Doesn't matter — you'll change into a robe or towel immediately.
• Go-go bars/clubs: Casual — shorts and a clean t-shirt or polo in tropical climates.
• Independent incall: Clean, presentable — a button shirt or clean polo, jeans or chinos, decent shoes. You don't need to overdress.
• High-end companion: Smart casual to semi-formal, depending on whether dinner or an event is involved.
• General rule: Clean, well-fitting, and appropriate for the venue. Wrinkled gym clothes and flip-flops are not appropriate for an incall.

Day-of Checklist

1. Shower and groom
2. Brush teeth, use mouthwash
3. Put on clean clothes
4. Confirm the appointment (time, location)
5. Cash — counted and ready (in an envelope or folded neatly)
6. Condoms in your pocket
7. Phone charged
8. Know how you're getting there and back
9. Tell no one where you're going (privacy — but see safety note below)